Monday, February 4, 2013

First (in person) 2nd opinion

Major bust. I have never cried as much as I have in the last 2 weeks and I'm getting sick of being sniffly and stuffy because of it all the fricking time.

I had a phone consult already with SIRM but tonight was my 1st in person consult with a local RE. I've personally met two mom's of IVF twins who went to this guy and highly recommend him so I was really excited!!!

I get there at 5:20 for a 5:45pm appointment and didn't get called back to the RE's office until 6:50pm. Then, they have me sitting in his office while he "reviews my chart" which he didn't get done with and come to meet me until 7:15pm.

He then sits down, and starts making a list of the labs he wants me to repeat first. Then he says, I'm producing such poor quality embryos that I really should be focusing on DE instead especially since I only have one IVF cycle left. Well....I corrected him and told him I don't have a cap on cycles, to which he replied "Oh well then I would consider cycling you with your OE". Well sure if you're getting the money from us no matter what why not!?!? He also told me that he wanted to cycle me with Ganirelix even though he knew I had an adverse reaction to the injections.

Then the real kicker....he gets up from his desk (while still talking to me) and starts walking towards the door while I'm sitting there still. He says, "Just a minute"....which I presumed he meant to me....and leaves. I sit there for 15min and when he doesn't come back I started wandering around. Turns out he is in another consult with the couple who came in after me!!!! I started bawling and just left....and bawled the whole way home.

Urgh....I'm seriously so frustrated with this whole process. The only thing he told me that I agreed with was to get karotyped and to see a genetic counselor since I may have a pituitary genetic mutation and NOT be panhypopit afterall. Seriously hope the other 2 consults don't go this bad.

3 comments:

  1. That sounds absolutely horrible! What an asshole!! Sometimes doctors are way too cocky for their own good. I'm so sorry you had such a horrible experience and I hope your other 2nd opinions go much better. Have you thought about consulting at the Advanced Fertility Center of Chicago? I've heard they have really high success rates? Good luck to you, I hope things look up from here ((hugs))

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    1. Actually one of the Bump girls went there and had a pretty bad experience so they're not on my list. I'm seeing Dr. Morris in Naperville next Monday and Chicago IVF in Orland Park the following week. I also have a phone consult with CCRM end of the month!

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  2. Ugh. I am sorry. That is a horrible experience. I did not cucle at Advanced Fertility, but I did a phoen consult and thought the doctor was super personable. Confident, but not cocky. Maybe it is worth a try? I know we will consider cycling there if our curent clinic does not work out. Either way, I hope your next appoitments are better!

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